Top. Bottom. Versatile. Do we find freedom in these labels? Or limitations?
Topping and bottoming are two ways that we think of polarity - opposites attracting towards one another. In good sex, there is an inherent quality of polarity. After all, if we acted identically to our partner, we’d have a stalemate.
But often times, without even realizing it, we allow the partner with the dominant energy dictate the flow of sexual energy, and we go along with it.
This is a sex game to create polarity, regardless of your sexual position.
Set a timer for 5 minutes. One partner agrees to be the one that dictates what happens. He moves the plot along, so to speak. The other partner receives, and expresses, let’s go, allows the giver to create the scene. Try to get into what he is offering, even if it’s not your first choice in expressing. If something hits a limit, and you want things to stop - say the safe word red.
Then at the end of the 5 minutes, the partners switch. The game will likely contain common arrangements of polarity like give/receive dynamics such as blow jobs, ass fucking, etc. But the intent is to turn some of these concepts on their heads and and to get creative. During your 5 minutes, do whatever you want.
Concept created by Finn Deerhart: http://www.finndeerhart.com