Voicing Your Desires
Added: December 4, 2017 | Runtime: 14:55 | 5,779 views
It’s easy to fall into the same old patterns when having sex. You know the routine. You’ve been there before. But isn’t there something more exciting?
This video shows you just one of many new ways that you can interact with your partner to break the routine and go somewhere new. It’s great if you are in a long term relationship, or could even be a great suggestion for a hookup.
Look into eachother’s eyes. Connect with your partner, deep into their eyes.
When we connect with someone else, it can sometimes be difficult to ask for what you really want. Sometimes we are are afraid that they’ll say no. Or sometimes we might fear that they say yes.
In this game, you and your partner will take turns making requests of each other.
The trick in this game is to take a risk. To ask for what you never dared to ask for. To go with what you really want. In doing so, you are exposing yourself and your true wishes.
When your partner asks you to do something, check in with yourself to see if this is something you wish to give.
If you find that it crosses a boundary line for you, you can offer to do something instead, as an alternative. “I’m not able to do that for you but instead if I could offer you this”.
From a Tantric perspective, this game supports asking for what you truly want. And for the person doing the giving, they need to check in to see if they can give without crossing their no.
Both these roles help to create more honesty, more truth and to not be shy in really asking for what you want in the world. You might sometimes hear a No, but it is much better to hear a No than never to have made the request at all.
This is an example of how you might play this game. Remember to be creative. Also take the time out to check in with each other about how the experience was and what you learned about yourself and how you relate to each other.
What was surprising?
What did you already know?
Was there something you wanted but didn’t dare ask for?
How was it saying Yes or No?
How did it feel giving? How did it feel receiving?