I’m not one to talk much about my own dating life.
There are lots of other things that are far more interesting – such as penises, orgasms and ejaculations. But since Himeros.tv is a celebration of gay sex and sexuality, and dating is both an expression of that sexuality and a means to much of the sex we have, this blog feels like an appropriate platform for indulgence.
I’ve been single for a few years, and I’ve gone on a number of dates. In a few rare instances, I even liked the guy.
In life, I’ve always had the mentality of pursuing what you want. If you want something, chase it. Life’s too short, right? And when there’s a degree of mutual interest, dating feels no different. If I like a guy, I make an effort. I make dinner plans, arrange for vacations, make my time available, and so on. If you like someone, that’s what you do.
But in almost all of those instances, over the last few years, there was an imbalance. Dates would get cancelled or rescheduled. Texts would go unanswered for lengths of time. Plans would fall through. In short, I was putting out more energy than I was receiving in return.
At times, I convinced myself that this is just how it is. And that I should keep making an effort. But in reality, I was fooling myself into thinking that any of this would evolve into something deeper. It’s a truth that’s embarrassing to admit.
All of this has given me reason to turn inward and ask difficult questions. Who are the people with whom I have energy deficits? Is it wise to keep those people around? Should I trim the fat, and make room for more equal and balanced relationships?
The implications of those questions, however difficult to ask, are made more difficult by their implications. In some instances, it may mean ending long relationships. It may mean breaking up. It may even mean facing the world alone. All of these things can be scary. But they are also liberating – and they speak to our intrinsic value as a human being. You deserve to be valued.
So yes, life is too short not to pursue what you want. But when it comes to relationships, life’s also too short to lose yourself chasing someone who doesn’t care about losing you.
As my grandfather used to say, don’t plant flowers in someone’s yard who won’t water them.
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