When you type a phrase into Google’s search bar, it likes to predict the query based on popular search terms. For example, typing in “how to clean” might predict results like “how to clean… white shoes” or “how to clean… an oven”.
So what happens when you type “sexually transmitted” into Google’s search bar?
Let’s take a look:
Honestly, I’m not surprised. Actually, I was a bit surprised by “sexually transmitted demons”. That’s a new one for me.
From an early age, we’re conditioned to fear sex and all that it transmits. In sex ed class, we’re shown horrifying images of wart-covered genitals. Our friends and family tell us terrifying tales of STDs. And even horror films have made a cliched art out of death by slut-shaming. The message is clear: Sex is something to fear.
For gay men, there’s an additional layer of fear and trauma. And for good reason. In the 1980s and 1990s, hundreds of thousands of our gay brothers died during the height of the AIDS epidemic. The cultural shift and trauma that resulted from this disease is something that continues to shape our community – and our relationship with sex.
In fact, when I came out to my mom in 2002, the first thing she told me is that she didn’t want me to die of AIDS.
Even with time, education, new treatments and PrEP, many gay men have internalized this trauma; we continue to fear the very thing that we crave so deeply: sex with other men. But is there another path forward?
Today’s Himeros.tv erotic video is titled Sexually Transmitted Joy. Filmed in Provincetown – a historically gay town that was ravaged by the AIDS epidemic, it features Adam Ramzi, Andy Soros, Tom Bentley and Max Adonis. You can watch a free preview of it on Himeros.tv.
The video opens with Adam and Andy, but then Andy is replaced by Tom. Max replaces Adam. And so on. The guys form a chain of sexual partners – cycling through kissing, sucking, rimming and fucking – until we finally get back to Adam and Andy. And then, the guys indulge in a delicious orgy of men, cocks and asses.
As the guys move from partner to partner, they take something with them. It’s not disease or death. It’s joy. From one partner to the next, the models transmit smiles, love, pleasure and happiness to their next partner. He, in turn, brings that joy to his next lover.
The idea is this: Instead of fearing our deepest desires, let’s celebrate them – and infuse them with all that our heart can offer. It’s joy and love and pleasure and connection that can help us overcome our trauma. In other words, perhaps the sex we fear is the very thing that can heal our wounds, our hearts and our community.
Through juicy erotic content, Davey Wavey created Himeros.tv for gay men to have hotter sex, to experience toe-curling pleasure and to fulfill their deepest desires. Watch free previews or join at himeros.tv.