Years ago, I found myself on a nude beach – wearing a bathing suit.
Growing up with plenty of Catholic guilt and a tumultuous relationship with my body, getting naked in public felt scary; doubt and hesitation paralyzed me. Standing there in my trunks, I wondered: Should I do it, and bare all? What if my dick shrinks in the cold water? Will people stare at me? Or should I be modest, and keep my bathing suit on? But won’t I stand out even more? Won’t I draw even more attention to myself and my insecurities?
In that moment of indecision, I went for it. A charge of excitement shot through my body as I removed my clothes and got naked. I felt so naughty – and it was goddamn awesome.
This moment of indecision has been termed “overcoming ambivalence” by Dr. Jack Morin. And it’s a cornerstone of eroticism.
According to one article:
Ambivalence is not usually an aphrodisiac, but Morin’s final cornerstone suggests that mixed feelings can be a powerful turn-on — that the combination of hatred and attraction, resistance and submission, is fodder for fantasy.
Morin interviews a woman named Lydia who was reticent about trying anal sex with her boyfriend, but goes for it anyway, starting slowly and choosing the positioning for herself. She found she loved it, and her initial reluctance somehow added to that enjoyment.
In today’s video, titled The Price of Discovery, we see JP Dubois overcome ambivalence as he enters a sex party. He wonders if they won’t like him. Or if they’ll like him too much. He’s hesitant, but goes for it anyway. And what transpires is a delicious orgy with Gabriel Cross, Kayden Gray, Bishop Black and Angel Cruz.
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Part of what makes this video so hot is JP’s reluctance to try something new and different. His fear and hesitancy become fodder for a peak sexual experience. And all of us are lucky enough to witness it all transpire.
Watching this film, you can’t help but wonder about all the ambivalent situations in your life that could increase the intensity of your sexual experience. Whether it’s as simple as stripping down at a nude beach, trying anal for the first time or attending a sex party, there’s much to be explored.
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