Want to talk dirty? I do!
The problem is, I’m not really that good at it. I could use some serious help.
Like anyone else who grew up in a busy home with little personal space, I became good at meeting my sexual needs in silence. If I was jerking off, I’d hold my breath and muffle my gasps. If I was fooling around with a friend in the basement, we wouldn’t dare make a sound while listening for approaching footsteps.
As an adult, it has taken time and effort to shed those old habits. In fact, it hasn’t been until the last few years that I’ve even given myself permission to breathe deeply and make sounds during orgasm. As it turns out, both breath and sound can really enhance one’s experience of sex and orgasm – and really take things to the next level. In fact, we made a guide about it. Have a listen.
It seems like dirty talk is the next natural step in my progression, and today’s Himeros.tv video serves as some solid inspiration. Featuring Bishop Black and Kris Blent, Dirty Talk was filmed during our recent trip to Amsterdam. Check out a free preview of the video.
Tantric sex coach Brad Amberheart sent me a note about the video. Expressing his love for Dirty Talk, he wrote:
We have a merging of the profane (nasty fuck-talk) with deep intimacy and connection. In fact, these models and the director, I feel, did a superb job of letting the audience in on a very important piece of wisdom: Some of the deepest, most intimate connection between men happens precisely at the moment when they let down their guards and just let themselves get just plain nasty.
Indeed, there seems to be a tremendous amount of connection and freedom that is facilitated by talking dirty.
Earlier this morning, I did some internet research and came up with some guidelines for incorporating dirty talk into the bedroom.
- Say what is authentically turning you on in the moment. Rather than memorizing canned lines from various examples, this approach uses creativity and authenticity.
- Be as descriptive as possible. Rather than say, “This feels good.” Try something like, “I fucking love it when you lick my balls like that and grab the sheets when you’re about to cum.”
- Use all of our senses. Describe what you taste, feel, smell, touch and hear.
So, I’m going to experiment with talking dirty. If it feels right, maybe you’ll give it a try, too.
And if it doesn’t change your life, at least it will give the neighbors something to talk about.
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