There’s a lot going on in today’s Himeros.tv video, titled Desire on Demand. It features Dalton Briggs and Remy Cruze, and is filmed in the style of a vintage 70s porno – complete with the cheesy soundtrack. It demonstrates a different perspective on sex workers, speaking your desires and soft cocks.
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The film opens with Remy looking through the classifieds of an old gay magazine. In the days before Grindr or the internet, this is how gay men connected. And, in this instance, Remy is looking to hire an escort.
Though escorts are often portrayed as caricatures in mainstream film, it’s impossible to pain all sex workers with the same broad brush. In reality, many sex workers provide crucial emotional support, connection and intimacy to their clients. It’s not just about pimps and happy endings. This film, among other things, shows a different flavor of sex work.
As the escort, Dalton asks what Remy wants. Remy replies, “For you to take total control and dominate my hole. And then to fall asleep in your arms.”
If there is one secret to good sex, it is this: Ask for what you want and, just as importantly, speak up about what you don’t want.
Asking for what you want implies that you know what you want. This can take years of sexual exploration and development. It requires discovering how your individual body works, and how it respond to different types of stimuli. Asking for what you want also implies that you have the courage to voice your desires without fear of rejection, judgment and so on. And speaking up about what you don’t want is an equally complicated but necessary journey. After all, no one can trust your “yes” unless they believe in your “no.”
Unlike traditional porn, this video was filmed without any performance enhancing drugs or injections. And so, just like real life, the erections come and go. And while Remy reaches an eventual ejaculatory climax, his erection isn’t constant throughout the video.
When filming this video, I knew that this would trigger responses from the audience. So let’s have that conversation right now.
Porn has conditioned us to expect hard cocks at all times. And this expectation has extended to our personal lives. Our insistence on erections is embodied in a multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical industry that promises to solve our so-called penis problems.
Let me be clear: Soft cocks are not problems. If anything, they are opportunities for us to expand our understanding of sex and our relationship with our bodies.
And yet, because soft cocks are seen – at times – in Desire on Demand, I knew that people would fixate on it. And literally the first comment on the video is, “But nobody got hard.” As I’ve said before, soft cocks are the ultimate taboo in gay porn.
Have you never had the experience of being with a guy that you like and not getting hard? Erections are not the only measure of sexual interest or chemistry. Sometimes, we don’t get hard precisely because we are so into a guy. So let’s free ourselves from this grossly limiting and ridiculous prison of our own creation. Let’s make room in our lives, in our sex and in our porn for some soft cocks. I promise, they are a lot of fun.
Like I said, there’s a lot going on in this video. So check it out for yourself on Himeros.tv.
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