I have two questions for you.
First, how much do you crave gay sex?
For most of us, the answer is probably A LOT. I think about gay sex almost constantly. Morning. Noon. Night. I dream about gay sex. I spend hours crawling through the bowels of Grindr to find a hookup buddy. I swipe left and right on Tinder. While it’s not the only drive in my life, it’s a big one.
Second, how much do you fear sex?
For most of us, the answer is probably A LOT. We’ve been conditioned – and not without justification – to view gay sex as a conduit for death and disease. Some of us lived through the AIDS epidemic of the 80s and 90s, burying loved ones, lovers and friends. And for those of us who are too young to remember, the collective trauma of the epidemic – despite modern advances to treatment and prevention – is alive and well.
I can’t help but wonder about the psychology of fearing one of our deepest, most intrinsic desires. How does our fear of sex negatively affect our experience of sex and sexuality – and how is that effect expressed through our thoughts, words and actions? It’s food for thought, but ultimately a question that far exceeds my pay grade or expertise.
However, this much I know: It’s 2019 and we live in a different world; it may be time to shed old perspectives and, perhaps, some of that fear.
Today’s Himeros.tv video is titled A World Without Fear. It features Kayden Gray alongside Bishop Black and Kris Blent. Check out the free preview.
As an outspoken activist who is living with HIV, the video opens with Kayden sharing some of his story. Kayden also shares his status as HIV undetectable and what that means. Because of today’s treatments, undetectable means un-transmittable; it’s not possible for someone who is undetectable to transmit HIV to another person. This isn’t opinion or fake news or conjecture. It is scientifically proven truth.
In the video, Kayden jerks off – and Kris and Bishop fearlessly engage with his cum. They rub it, lick it and taste it. They honor Kayden and his load. They understand what undetectable means and they invite all of us to experience a new perspective.
Despite living in a world with better HIV treatments and preventative tools like PrEP, there are other STDs. Each of us can make decisions, with help from our doctors and physicians, about the safer sex practices that work best for us. But of all the ways to protect ourselves and live a sexually full life, none include fear. Fear fuels stigma rather than fulfillment, and serves only to separate ourselves and each other from the gift that is our sexuality.
Today, we’re invited to imagine a world without fear – and then take a step in the direction of creating it.
Through juicy erotic content, Davey Wavey created Himeros.tv for gay men to have hotter sex, to experience toe-curling pleasure and to fulfill their deepest desires. Watch free previews or join at himeros.tv.