When I was a child, my mother loved cooking her family recipe for fried potatoes. On a high flame, she’d place a shallow, cast iron pan filled with potatoes and oil. The grease would boil right up to the edge of the pan, just an inch away from the flame – and dangerously close to burning our entire house down.
When I asked my mom why she didn’t use a deeper pan, she said that this is how her mom cooked the potatoes. So, I asked my grandmother the same question. It turns out, the recipe belonged to her mother – and that my great grandmother used a similarly shallow pan.
I suspect my great grandmother used a shallow pan because, as a poor Portuguese immigrant, that’s all she had. And, of course, as the recipe was passed down through the generations, no one thought to ask why – and no one thought to do something different.
I tell this story because I feel like a similar thing can happen with sex. We do what we’ve seen other people do, and rarely seek out another way.
Case in point: Getting undressed.
Before having sex, how many times have we stripped off our wardrobe and thrown it on the floor – like a child unwrapping a gift on Christmas morning? Little thought is given to undressing. It’s mindless.
That is, until today.
This week’s video, titled Discovering Your Ecstatic Body and written by Jason Tantra, is our longest yet – and is divided into two parts. The first half of the video contains an intimate undressing ritual that you can enjoy with a lover or partner. I’m obsessed with this concept, and I’ve had the pleasure of putting this ritual into practice. I’ve even tried using a mirror and undressing myself. It is super intense.
Through the undressing ritual, disrobing becomes part of the fun. In a lot of ways, for me, it feels even hotter than sex. There’s so much tension and anticipation and connection and touch. I love it! And I really hope that you have the opportunity to make it your own and give this undressing ritual a try.
The second part of the video is all about using touch to get your partner’s erotic energy flowing. It’s best watched after practicing this chakra masturbation.
I can’t wait to hear what you think about it. So please join me on Tuesday, January 9th at 6:30 PM ET (NYC time zone) for our weekly live chat. See you then!