On a seemingly daily basis, I get emails from bored couples who are looking for new ways to explore their sexuality and to reintroduce excitement, play and fun into their sex. They’re sick and tired of the same old.
For all those couples, and for anyone looking to experience something new, I’m excited to share today’s Himeros.tv video titled The Deep Feast featuring Adam Ramzi and Andy Soros. You can check out a NSFW trailer here.
The Deep Feast is a playful exploration game that you can play with your partner. You can incorporate this game into a hook up, or it can be practiced with long-term lovers. Using food, you’ll get out of your comfort zone and into a playful space of silent connection.
Interestingly, food is also tied to the pleasure centers in our brains. When we combine sexual pleasure and food in an improvisational way, it opens up new patterns and erotic flow and new ways of feeling comfortable with each other. Ultimately, this allows us to have more relaxed, authentic, playful connections with our partners. As a result, our sex becomes naturally more playful and exploratory, and less indexed to familiar routines, roles, etc.
Here’s how it works:
- Start by arranging various foods on a large plate. Use a variety of colors, tastes, textures and consistencies. Think luxurious berries, chunks of pineapple, carrot sticks and dip, small decadent bites of chocolates, etc.
- Sit across from your partner, and take a few deep full-body breaths and notice any sensations in the pelvic floor, genitals and butt. Let this energy and awareness rise as one scans his body, releasing tension. Begin allowing yourself to be transported outside the normal boundaries of social interactions like routine sex and routine dining. Release expectations about how the sex will begin, who will initiate, what role one might take, etc. From this moment onward, the event is without words, and communication is established by physical gestures, sexy noises, breaths, laughs, etc.
- Every bite that is consumed should be fed by the partner. So, no one eats with his own hands. This symbolizes trust and reliance on a partner, surrender, and being “fed” on multiple levels. Partners take turns, bite for bite, being fed by the other man. Get flirty. Get silly! Each partner, in his turn, will gesture somehow to his plate, which bite he wants. The giver will pick up the morsel and in some creative way, feed it to his partner. Each method of feeding must be unique and unrepeated. It usually starts by putting it into the receiver’s mouth, lingering, letting the fingers be sucked on, nibbled, etc. Giver, help the feast evolve by making little challenges for the receiver. Maybe put a bite in your navel, lie back and have the receiver lick it off. Feed bites to each other with your toes! Nuzzle each other and listen to the sensual sound of chewing and swallowing, neck to neck, savoring every part of the experience. Discover fun and new ways to feed each other.
- Maintain eye contact whenever possible. Eventually, as the evening progresses, both parties are increasingly more undressed and eating off many different erogenous zones on the body, getting sexier and sexier. Try to stretch the feast to at least an hour or so of this kind of play. Save genital contact for much later in the feast to allow the anticipation to build and build.
So there you have it. A fun way to incorporate sex, food and intimacy. Who says you can’t have your cake and get dicked, too?
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