Tantra is a funny word. It seems to mean different things to different people – and it almost always feels very mysterious.
So what does it look like when two lovers participate in a so-called ‘tantric’ coaching session? What really happens? And what can the rest of us learn from their experience?
Those are the questions we set out to answer for this week’s Himeros.tv video featuring Blake Mitchell and Joey Mills. With the help of tantric coach Brad Amberheart, you’ll have an intimate and vulnerable look at their connection – and learn the foundations of better sex.
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In this video, three grounding principles of tantra are explored. They are breath, sound and movement. It is by working on each of these individually, and then combining them together in sex, that we’re able to connect in a deeper, more fulfilling way with ourselves and the people around us.
In my own experience, I find breath and sound to be particularly challenging.
When I masturbate or approach orgasm, I tend to hold my breath. The clenching of my breath feels almost instinctual. But when I actively think about breathing, I can feel the sexual energy move from my pelvis through other areas of my body. I can feel the sexual energy in my legs, toes, arms and fingers. It feels more ecstatic, almost as though I’m going to have a full body orgasm.
I find sound particularly challenging because I’ve conditioned myself to be silent during sex and masturbation. As a child, I didn’t want my parents to know what I was doing… so I masturbated quickly and silently. As an adult, I often wonder if my neighbors will hear me – and what they will think. I’m slowly releasing this shame and leaning into better vocalization – but it takes time and practice.
I’d love to hear about your experience practicing breath, sound and movement. Join me on Wednesday, January 31 at 10:00AM ET (NYC Time Zone) for our weekly live chat.